My Opinion is…
Constructive criticism can be utter bosh
Unfolding ideas almost awash
High fives questioned as awes or flaws
Is it wise to hide our guffaws
Or raise our voice to quash the cause
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Eugenia
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Constructive criticism is a rare thing. Most people don’t think before they tell us what they think and that often means what they have to say is total bosh. I say raise your voice and guffaw your quash. Thanks for sharing no bosh needing to be quashed here.
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😃 Thank you for the great comment, Patricia.
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I was just reading a piece on ‘authenticity filters’. This gels so much with the ideas expressed. Brilliant piece, Eugenia!
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Thank you, Reena.
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I do get this. One person’s idea of constructive criticism can be based entirely on subjectivity. Best to get more than one opinion, I believe :). insightful, Eugenia x
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I agree and thank you, Daisy.
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I felt awash with feelings of sadness and joy in that order.
Finally it was here, that moment I asked God for so many years ago.
When change happens it is good, we live.
Now I must let go, and be happy differently!
(*** As my eldest son prepares to be married I’m awashed with anxiety and joy!)
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I feel it is normal to have mixed emotions. Life is full of surprises and at times we have to step back and try to absorb all that is going on around us. Keep shining!
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Thought provoking poetry Eugenia. I think the phrase constructive criticism was coined by people unable to control their own egos. There is a great saying in the North of England, “sometimes it’s better to bite your tongue and say nowt (nothing).”
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I like your thoughts, Davy, and I agree. It is an overused phrase in my opinion. One of those – for lack of anything better to say phrases.
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So very true Eugenia.
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Excellent, humorous reflection on the dubious value of unasked for “constructive criticism,” Eugenia (an oxymoron, actually, IMHO) — along with the protective value of Personal Boundaries.
“Bugger off!” is sometimes the best response – lol. Ironic that we don’t usually say that to critics because we are more careful with their feelings than they are of ours.
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mgh
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You make an excellent point about being more careful with their feelings than they are with ours. Thank you for expanding on the poem.
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Thanks – we DO that, don’t we? I linked this post to my intro article for the boundaries series (which I believe posts Monday) – watch for a ping.
xx,
mgh
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Hum… I think it’s better to hold your tongue. I know many people that are hurt by someone saying ‘but it’s the truth’. Short and sweet and thought provoking poetry – I love it !
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Thank you, Joan. I appreciate your joining in.
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I love the poem, Eugenia! It has really struck a chord with me since I have been receiving a lot of bad press lately from some people in my country who seem to be annoyed by my recent publications . I don’t get this attitude and what it is that bothers them. Constructive criticism should not contain any venom nor should it contain a tinge of spite. If you don’t like something just abstain from spiteful comment.
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I agree spite is not constructive criticism. I feel Madelyn summed it quite well with her comment,
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Sometimes under the blanket guise of constructive criticism, people hurt others and take mean spiteful jabs at each other.
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I agree 100%.
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Excellent poem and observations Eugenia .. 🙂
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Thank you so much, Sue.
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I don’t realy understand. What is against constructive critisism? Un-constructive critisism would be something like: That sucks! Constructive crisism however could adress the, well, construction of the piece of art, wether it is a poem, a story, a painting, picture, whatever. It might state: that specific part of the piece doesn’t seem to be that strong. If you strengthen it, the whole ‘building’, as it were, gets more stable, more beautiful perhaps. Or: the piece is good, well crafted, the buidling blocks are well put together. But it might need some more…. and then fill in what it could benefit from. If the point is that unasked critisism is unwanted and annoying, I can wholeheartedly agree. But I fail to see the foul in constructive crisism as such.
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If the constructive criticism is sincere and the intent is to offer helpful advice, then there is nothing wrong with constructive criticism. However, if someone makes a spiteful comment and refers to it as constructive criticism then they are misusing the term.
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I fully agree with that. Such a person is not a sincere critic, it’s a… ehm… well, let us not be trapped in unconstructiveness 🙂
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I agree. Btw, your photography is outstanding.
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Thank you, Jacqueline. 😉
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Loved it. Truth of the matter is, we are in the truth business in one form or the other. And if people don’t agree with what you have to say, oh well.
As that great philosopher , Ricky Nelson put it, “You can’t please everyone, so you got to please yourself.”
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Thank you and I like the quote by Ricky Nelson. We can’t please everyone even if we want to.
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